Bar pickup – Part 1

Posted: May 29, 2011 in Uncategorized
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Last year I was trying to get the Mystery Method to work for me in London’s bars and clubs. I didn’t get very far with it. I always ended up over thinking things, and mostly just ejected from sets early as a result. This year I’ve been focusing on running simpler (but possibly less effective) game. As my approach anxiety fades I would hope pickups like the one that follows will be a regular occurrence.

The pickup

I’m in a bar/club in central London with a wing. We’d been in a couple of sets earlier but nothing had really stuck. We’re in the club area of the bar. It’s early and there aren’t many people around. I spot a 2 set of HB7s sat in tall chairs at a table in the corner. They’re intermittently looking around, which is a good sign that they’re probably waiting to be opened by guys. I spend at least 60 seconds psyching myself up for the approach, then go in.

My opener’s shite. It went something like, “Hi. You girls look nice and relaxed now, but I can tell you’re just chilling out before you tear it up on the dance floor”. They don’t seem impressed, and are eye coding “WTF?” to each other. Not a great start. In the past I would have ejected, but instead I plough. I introduce myself and ask for their names. They are both foreign, but One obviously has much better English than the other, so I make her my target. I get her to spell her name for me. At this point the set has just about hooked.

My wing comes over and I introduce him into the set. It’s great to have a good wing that knows when to come into sets. I’ve had it before where I’ve been 5 minutes into a 2 set and my wings have been stood nearby and not come in. I feel like it’s too much pressure to lead 2 girls in conversation so often end up ejecting.

Last year I was trying to get the Mystery Method to work for me in London’s bars and clubs. I didn’t get very far with it. I always ended up over thinking things, and mostly just ejected from sets early as a result. This year I’ve been focusing on running simpler (but possibly less effective) game. As my approach anxiety fades I would hope pickups like the one that follows will be a regular occurrence.

The pickup

I’m in a bar/club in central London with a wing. We’d been in a couple of sets earlier but nothing had really stuck. We’re in the club area of the bar. It’s early and there aren’t many people around. I spot a 2 set of HB7s sat in tall chairs at a table in the corner. They’re intermittently looking around, which is a good sign that they’re probably waiting to be opened by guys. I spend at least 60 seconds psyching myself up for the approach, then go in.

My opener’s shite. It went something like, “Hi. You girls look nice and relaxed now, but I can tell you’re just chilling out before you tear it up on the dance floor”. They don’t seem impressed, and are eye coding “WTF?” to each other. Not a great start. In the past I would have ejected, but instead I plough. I introduce myself and ask for their names. They are both foreign, but One obviously has much better English than the other, so I make her my target. I get her to spell her name for me. At this point the set has just about hooked.

My wing comes over and I introduce him into the set. It’s great to have a good wing that knows when to come into sets. I’ve had it before where I’ve been 5 minutes into a 2 set and my wings have been stood nearby and not come in. I feel like it’s too much pressure to lead 2 girls in conversation so often end up ejecting.

As my wing occupies the obstacle and I go to work on HBLith. She’s a tough one. At one point early in the set she’s just nodding and smiling. I call her out on it playfully, “I’m stood here talking away and you’re just sat there nodding and smiling. You don’t have a fucking clue what’s going on do you?”.

Getting personal details out of her lime where she lives and what job she does are like getting blood out of a stone. Many of the things she says to me just don’t ring true. Whenever I can tell she’s bullshitting to mess with me I call her out on it and bust her over it. She likes this. She starts returning my kino and playfully punching my arm as I bust on her.

She won’t tell me where she’s from. I laugh at her, saying I already know where she’s from and turn away from her. A nice little open loop. She reinitiates conversation, leaning into me and asking where I think she’s from. She then scoots over to another seat, and invites me to sit down. At this point I’m pretty certain I have attraction. I’m locked into the set and I move into comfort.

I run wide rapport as I slowly escalate kino. I take her number. After I’ve been in set for about 30mins,conversation starts to dry up a little. Now would be a good time to go for some deep rapport, but it’s too fucking loud for a deep an meaningful conversation. I opt for plan b; take her to the dance floor and go for the kiss close.

On the dance floor she initially resists me pulling her close, but gives in after some persistence. Then she rejects my k close attempt. This confuses me a little, but I am untaxed by it. She tells me so doesn’t kiss guys she doesn’t know. I tell her it’s not a problem.

We go back to the table. My wing has escalated with the obstacle to the point where he’s got his face in her ample cleavage, but still no k close for him either. Are Lithuanians frigid?

I chat to my girl a bit longer. She’s gone a bit cold on me since the dance floor. If I had some cash on me I’d take her to the bar for shots, but I’m broke. It’s starting to get late so I decide 60 mins in set is enough time so I don’t feel bad for letting my wing get potentially cock blocked. Also, at this point I figure staying any longer won’t increase by chances of getting a day 2 with her, so I leave.

I call her a couple of days later, and she’s up for a day 2.

To be continued…

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Stats since 1st June:
0 approaches
0 number closes
0 kiss closes
0 f closes

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Comments
  1. socialkenny says:

    Good to know that you’re not ejecting pre-maturely like before.Some gurus actually teach to stay in set until the girl literally leaves or curse you out.I agree.
    Maybe those girls felt weirded out that you were psyching yourself up for 60 sec.before you approached.Maybe they spotted your anxiety.But they warmed up though.

  2. socialkenny says:

    P.S.Love Systems have some of the best materials I’ve ever learnt.Braddock is good.

  3. puavault says:

    Inquiring minds want to know what came of the day2 🙂 I think you stayed a bit too long in set, and should’ve ejected on a high after the dance floor, or tried to bounce her out to another venue. After a while if you can’t escalate in the club the situation has no more value, and you risk being the hanger-on who can’t take a clue to leave. But, if you got a day2 setup, then you didn’t cross that line.

    • betatopua says:

      You’re right about needing to eject from the set after the dance floor. The only reason I hung around for a bit is because my wing was escalating on her friend, and I wanted to give him a bit more time isolated with her. Her friend was leaving the country so number closing no good for my wing, he needed the SNL.

      As for the day 2, I’ll write that up at the weekend. Spoiler: I have a day 3 with her tomorrow.

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