I’m not putting enough effort into sets

Posted: July 27, 2011 in Uncategorized

One thing I’ve noticed recently is that many of my sets just fizzle out. I’m talking to a girl, the conversation dies, and she leaves.

In his book, ‘Bang’, RooshV says that a silence of 10 or more seconds within the first 30 minutes will kill a set. I would agree with this, but also add that a 5 second silence can often be enough within the first 10 minutes.

If you’ve been reading my blog for a while you may have noticed a theme. When I identify a recurring problem, I always analyze the causes of the problem, and then look at possible solutions. So here I go.

I see three reasons for the problem:

1. My lack of conversational skills. These have come on a long way recently, but I’m inconsistent. Post on this coming soon.

2. My inner introvert kicks in. This does not mean I get shy. It means I sometimes do not like speaking to people. This is not a lack of confidence, it’s more like I just get bored, even speaking with hot women.

3. Trying to play it too cool. I don’t want to come across as eager or seen to be fighting to keep the conversation alive. However, I think it’s worth risking these things for the sake of keeping the conversation going. If the girl walks off I have no chance. Keeping her there, even if I appear eager as a result may not be the best game, but you don’t need perfect game to get laid.

I need to drop the ego, ignore my inner introvert and just keep the conversation going. Burn every set to the ground.

Stats since 1st July:
60 approaches
8 number closes
3 kiss closes
1 f closes

  1. PUA Vault says:

    “I need to drop the ego, ignore my inner introvert and just keep the conversation going. Burn every set to the ground.”

    Easier said than done when you’re in set 🙂 What I’ve tried to do was to practice silence and letting the girl carry the conversation, when I’m in sets I don’t care too much.

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