July’s monthly review & my PUA goals for August

Posted: August 1, 2011 in Uncategorized

Time to review how things went for me this month, and set some goals / strategy for next month. Lets start by taking a look at my goals for July. My only formal goal was to open 100 sets. I failed. I only opened 60. There are two reasons for this. Firstly, I didn’t push myself as hard as I should to open more sets. The second reason is running into financial difficulty (ahem) means that I only went out for the first 17 days or so of the month.

Once upon a time I would have been really annoyed with myself for not reaching my goal. My mentor has taught me to look at the positives of each situation, instead of just focusing on the negatives. So here are the positives and negatives of last month’s gaming:

Negatives

  • Only opened 60% of the sets I wanted to
  • Still finding it hard to hook well in day game
  • I was irresponsible and over spent
  • Still not approaching 3 sets in night game
  • Having problems with sets fizzling out in night game / not moving into comfort properly
Positives
  • I got laid
  • Double the number closes I ever got in a month
  • 3 kiss closes in a month
  • Opened more sets than ever before in a month
  • Got better at opening on the dance floor
  • Starting to get used to opening and hooking in a loud club
  • More comfortable getting physical with a girl quickly
  • A slight increase in overall confidence
  • I think I now know what my two main sticking points are (more on these another time)
All in all I’d say that since the positives outweigh the negatives, so this has been a good month for me.
Looking forward I really want to get to the point where I’m doing a high volume of approaches each and every month. This is both because pickup is a numbers game, and also because I’ll get better faster by opening more sets. To this end I want to set the goal of opening 100 sets again for August. I don’t usually like setting the same goal two months running when I failed to achieve it the first month. I think doing so devalues the goal, as in your mind, you just sort of say to yourself, “I didn’t make it last month, so it doesn’t matter too much if I don’t make it this month either”. Despite this risk I think this is a solid, achievable goal. I could just set the goal for 70 set this month, and I’d almost certainly hit that goal. I’d rather aim for a 100 and hit 80 though.
The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.
My full PUA goals for August, 2011 will be:
  1. Open 100 sets
  2. Open it least 10 sets with 3+ girls in them
  3. Open at least 10 sets in one night game session
  4. Open at least 10 sets in one day game session
100 sets a month is all I need to open. There are people out there that will tell me I could open twice that if I was really motivated. They’re probably right, but it wouldn’t achieve much. I really feel that this coming month is the month my AA finally becomes manageable, and I will have basic confidence in approaching girls. From there I can start really experimenting with what I do and working on the technical details which will up my success rate.
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Stats since 1st August:
0 approaches
0 number closes
0 kiss closes
0 f closes
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Comments
  1. David. says:

    It’s important to highlight the positives. Next time you do a review I suggest you start with the positives first before going critical on what you would like to improve. It are these small actions which can help build up the difference you are seeking.

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