Archive for November, 2012

Six Weeks

Posted: November 22, 2012 in Uncategorized

Six weeks. Over the past couple of years I’ve realised that, almost without fail, this is the amount of time it takes me to get bored of a girl I initially like.

It’s happened most recently with the Ukrainian girl I’ve been seeing for… just over six weeks. It got to the point last time I saw her that at one point I was just thinking, “Suppose we should have sex. Meh”. This is in stark contrast to a girl (or should I say lady, she’s older than me) that I’ve been on a couple of dates with (met her from cold approach). I haven’t fucked her yet and on our last date I had a hard on nearly the whole time, despite nothing to sexual going on.

I’ve come to realise I only like sex a little. What I like a lot is sexual variety. I think this is true of many guys, but most guys still settle down because they find it so hard to get a girl, that when they finally do, they want to keep her. I on the other hand am closing in on my 10th lay of the year with this new girl. Not spectacular by PUA standards, but it means that sex does come easily enough that I don’t feel the need to settle down with the first girl that will have me, leaving me free to be driven by my lust for sexual variety.

Given that even mediocre girls seem to have many options, I can see why girls often seem so picky about who they date.

The year’s drawing to a close now. It’s cold outside and the clubs aren’t that busy. I won’t be going out more than a few times between now and the new year, so there’s not that much sarging to be done. The Ukrainian can sense I’m losing interest. Girls with high self esteem seem to walk away when they sense this is happening. They won’t put up with a guy who’s bored with them. That means this one may well be over. I’d say the other girl is 65% certain for the fclose. I don’t have any other targets lined up. I got a bj on a first date from a girl I met on POF at the beginning of the month. Thought that’s worth mentioning here. Not worthy of a whole post, I decided not to see her again.

At the moment I’m looking to the new year. I’m starting to think about my objectives for 2013, and I’ll be posting them up here soon. I think I’ve said it before, but I think late 2014 / early 2015 will be my time, where I really hit my peak with women. A lot of different things should finally come together then. For that to happen though, there’s going to have to be a lot of hard work put in and fears overcome next year.

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Why do I keep failing?

Posted: November 5, 2012 in Uncategorized

The title of this post may sound like I’m about to wallow in self pity, but that’s not the case.

As regular readers of this blog will be aware, I’ve been doing a lot of inner game style work lately, and I’m slowly but surely improving aspects of my life which I feel are lacking. I will continue with that, but it is a long term endeavour. I’m guessing it will take around a year for me to really reap the benefits of this in terms of picking up women. In the shorter term I’m looking for something else to boast my results. As always I am seeking to analyse what I’m currently doing, work out where I’m going wrong, and come up with an action plan to start fixing the problems.

When it comes to night game I really don’t feel I’m getting the results I should be. Interactions seem to go well with girls, I get a lot of kisses and often end up groping girls, but I’m not really fucking many of them. Especially the hot ones.

The problem is I’m not exactly sure what the problem is. I’m guessing (as many others may have from the above paragraph  that escalating too far in the club is one problem. I’ve actually thought this may be it for some time, but I just find kissing and groping attractive girls a hard habit to break for some reason. Beyond that I’m just not sure what to do to improve my outer game. So analysis is needed.

I read recently how Roosh, after each failed night out (failed meaning no lay), would work out his main reason for failure. Some examples of this reason were no girls were interested, couldn’t isolate a girl that was into him from her group ect. After a couple of months he would then total these reasons up and look at the ones with the highest percentages and work out how to fix them. I will do the same.

First I need and end goal for each night, as this will act as a barometer of success or failure. No bullshit, “I just want to go out and have fun”. My firm goal is an SNL. Not kisses or phone numbers, these come easily to me now. Each and every time I step into a club my aim is the SNL. I will try and work out the main reason for my failure on a given night and document it. I will guess some of the main reasons will be as follows:

  1. The girl just won’t come home with me that night. Many girls won’t.
  2. The logistics are crap (she’s from out of town or travelling with friends).
  3. A girl’s happy to spend time with me and kiss me, but when it comes to sex I’m wasting my time, she just wants some fun but not sex. It’s hard to screen these time wasters out but I’m, getting better at it.
  4. No girls are interested in me at all. A rarity these days, but it still happens.
  5. I don’t approach enough. Given I only have to do around 3 – 5 approaches to find a girl who’s somewhat interested in me, this too is a rarity these days.
  6. I give up too early. This does happen. Some nights a get a kiss and a number from a girl by midnight and a feel like I’m done for the night. I think staying till the end and keeping on approaching could well up my results.

I have already had a chance to try this out. On Friday night I K closed and number closed a girl who lived out of town and was travelling home with a friend. So reason 2, crappy logistics.