2013 Here I Come

Posted: December 13, 2012 in Uncategorized

As I mentioned in my last post, as 2012 is drawing to a close it is time for me to outline my plan and goals for next year.

Although I plan to do a in depth review of the whole year sometime late next month, in this post I need to briefly look at where I am now in order to work out what I need to do next.

All in all I would say, despite having more sexual success this year than in any other year in my life, my progress has been mediocre.

My main win has been in the looks department. Through grooming, exercise  diet and fashion I have increased my physical attractiveness to what I would say is above average. I’m still not at 100% of my full potential in this regard, but I’d say I’m 90% of the way there.

I’ve moved my career on a little, but hardly by leaps and bounds. My social situation is still identical to what it was right at the beginning of the year. I’ve broadened my horizons slightly by travelling abroad for the first time in years, and by reading more.

So like I said, mediocre progress, but nothing ground breaking. To put it in perspective, here is my list of things to improve from this time last year. The ones I achieved this year are crossed out:

  • I would liked to have had double figure lays this year
  • Still not approaching nearly as much as I’d like
  • Yet to get a daygame lay
  • Haven’t really built up a solid inner circle of really good friends (although it’s a very small circle)
  • My life is lacking a (non sarging) social scene
  • Temporarily relapsed on smoking over festive period (this is ok if it remains temporary)
  • Still need to get in better shape
  • Style and grooming is OK but very generic. Room for massive improvements (Always room for improvement, but it’s pretty good at the moment).
  • Money issues often hold me back

Most guys when they first get into game think they can carry on living their lives in the same way as they have done previously, but massively increase their success with women by changing a few things about the way they interact with them (ie routines). People that have been in the game for a fairly long time like I have, know that it doesn’t really work like that. If you want to be much more successful with women in a year from now, things in your life really need to change in that 12 months. So when I look back and see that my life is more or less the same as it was a year ago, I know I’m not doing what I need to in order to see the success I want with women.

So what changes do I plan to make in 2013?

The two things I feel need the most work in my life at the moment are building up my social circle, and building my career. Although they can both be done in parallel to some extent, I’ve found that I can only really have one major focus on in my life at a time if I’m to make really great headway. For 2013 I’m going to choose social circle over career. There are two reasons for this:

  1. I think a better social circle will have the faster short term pay off out of the two.
  2. There are some self esteem / insecurity issues surrounding my career. This area of my life is probably my last bastion of low self esteem. Sorting it out will have a huge pay off but is going to be so so hard. Going to procrastinate on this one another year.

For building up my social circle, I’m going to take a two pronged approach.

Firstly I’m going to continue to meet people from the seduction community. They are easy to meet, but the problem is many of them are not really friendship material for me if I’m honest. The ones that are already often have good social lives so it’s hard to get them to come out regularly enough for a lasting friendship to develop. Going out more often (to be honest, I’ve probably only averaged 3/4 nights out a month this year) may help to solve this. Plus I need to make more of an effort to spend time with guys I meet when we go out sarging. This may seem easy, but I generally end up spending most of my night with a girl when I’m out sarging. Either that or I haven’t found one yet so I’m hunting.

I also need to make more friends outside of the community. I have two problems with this. Firstly, I’m extremely introverted so don’t enjoy socializing much. Secondly I’m not that keen on hanging round with men who haven’t taken the red pill. They seem the same as me on the surface, but every now and then you see that their outlook on life is so different to mine. They just don’t see the same world I see.

I’m going to do this via meetup.com groups. I’m getting back into poker at the moment, and there’s a meetup group which organizes low stakes tournaments regularly in London. I went to one last Saturday, and everyone seemed friendly. Plus I won the tournament, the £100 prize is paying for my dates this week. I will also try some other meetup groups who do activities I’ve never tried in order to broaden my horizons. I’ll start going out for work drinks slightly more often too.

One area I still feel needs improvement is my various addictions. Mainly sexual services and smoking. I really need to cut these out, but I’m really struggling with the self control required. If I’ve shaken both of these before the end of next year I’ll be very happy, as this would be a big difference and would make me feel like my life is making progress and I’m making changes.

Goals for 2013

  1. Become competent at IOS (iPhone/Pad) programming.
  2. Get a new job with slightly more responsibility.
  3. Expand my seduction community social circle by at least a couple of (decent) people.
  4. Go to meet ups regularly.
  5. Make 2/3 new friends outside of the community.
  6. Travel abroad at least twice.
  7. Do two interesting things a month. It can be a trip abroad or just going to a restaurant which is a little different.
  8. Stop smoking.
  9. Stop spending loads of cash on sexual services.
  10. Continue reading a book a month.
  11. Sleep with a dozen women (although I’m more concerned with quality these days).
  12. Start regularly approaching girls in the day time.
  13. Get my first day game lay. (As the weather gets warmer next year I’m really going to push for this one. I can do it through sheer volume of approaches if I have to. I don’t think it’s possible for me to do 100 day game approaches and not get laid).
  14. Keep my flat tidy.
  15. Get a 6 pac (I’m so close but need to stop dieting now)
  1. Jim Bacon says:

    I could be wrong, but it still looks like you are trying to fit a social life around a demanding job, in a city where there are no pre-built social circles that you can join. As long as you do this you might be putting a permanent low ceiling on your potential.

    Would it hurt you to go on sabbactical for a year and try to live in an easier environment? I don’t really know as I am not a developer. A related question is – are you resistant to leaving London because it is a center of PU where you can meet fellow AFCs to go out with? Does the illness that you hinted at limit your options?

    But very well done on all the things you have sorted out over the last year. I’m still pretty much as screwed relations wise this Christmas as I was last Christmas.

    I do find the addiction to sexual services a bit hard to understand. What is wrong with just having a wank?

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