Archive for July, 2013

Breaking back into daygame

Posted: July 22, 2013 in Uncategorized

At the end of last year I posted a list of things that I wanted to achieve this year. Getting a daygame lay was one of them. On his blog, Krauser, who’s game and posts both seem to be on great form this year, wrote about how he believed doing daygame was like holding up a mirror which reflects back a true appraisal of your own attractiveness to girls. I found the advice he gave in his summary very interesting:

All men build buffers around themselves to flatter their self esteem and avoid rejection. Every single one of us, myself included. Root them out. Figure out how you are fooling yourself. The easiest single step is to go out into the street and open ten girls. Welcome the responses they are giving you. The harsh blowouts and the flat zero-attraction chats are offering you far more constructive feedback than any online forum can. Compile a wealth of this information, figure out where you stand, and then make a promise to yourself that from this ground zero you will build yourself up.

The part about opening 10 girls in the street and seeing how it goes appealed to me, and was a good first step in the journey towards my first daygame lay. So that’s exactly what I did. The following 10 approaches happened over the course of the past 3 weeks, so my memory may be somewhat hazy. This doesn’t matter as we’re only looking for an overview in order to tell we’re I’m at in terms of my attractiveness. All girls were HB7+, mostly 8s.

  1. English girl. Stopped, 10 minute conversation and number close. Flake. Friendly vibe. I was nervous and blabbered on. No teasing, and 0 sexuality / intent.
  2. Koren girl who grew up in UK. 5 minute conversation before she made her excuses and left. She was shy, I was nervous. Very awkward.
  3. Scottish girl. Fun vibe between us, but no intent by me. Got the bf line as I tried for the number.
  4. Stopped her but saw she looked a lot younger up close. She told me she was under 18 so I ejected.
  5. Tried to stop her but she said she was meeting friends. It seemed like she would have stop if I persisted, but I let her go.
  6. English girl, barely scraping a 7. I only opened her because a wing said she was IOIing me. Awkward conversation on my part, so I ejected.
  7. Came in at the wrong angle, freaked her out a little, lost my nerve and she wouldn’t stop.
  8. Hot little Czech 20 year old. Tanned, decent face, great body in a little pair of tight shorts. HB8. Good vibe and teasing by me. Mild intent. Bounced her to a pub for my first ever insta date. Day2’d her a week later. She’s new to London and I get the impression she just wants beta orbiters to take her out (this is happening with other men she’s met). Refuses KClose multiple times. Doesn’t seem that into me. I’m good at the start of the date but don’t work hard enough at the end of the date. Probably too persistant with escalation attempts (this is sticking point for me, too much escalation, I’m sure this is one of the big reasons I have problems with day2s).
  9. English girl. Fun vibe but no teasing or intent. Pure beta style daygame (“I saw you and thought you looked fit”). Number close and flake.
  10. English girl. Looked wary of me (I’m too nervous to smile sometimes in daygame). Turned out she was 17. Whoops. Let her go.

Looking at those results I’m obviously not completely repellent to women (although I already know this from the fact I had a HB7 brazillian who’s more than a decade younger than me text me tonight wanting to come to my flat… ahh night game is so much easier). The main thing stopping me being attractive at the moment is my nerves. It’s not that I’m scared of rejection. Last Friday outside a club I tried to kiss close a girl and she literally laughed in my face. It didn’t phase me at all, so rejection obviously doesn’t scare me (also I went on to bang that girl 2 hours later). What makes me nervous during the day is the fact that stopping girls in the street and hitting on them isn’t really socially acceptable. The only way to get around that is desensitisation and results.

I think it will take me about 200 approaches done over the rest of the year before I become chilled out enough in set during the day to start getting good results. Results will lead to further results. This is because when I start to get laid from daygame, neural connections will form in my brain telling me that approaching girls in the day leads to sex with attractive women. Once that happens social acceptability be damned. These concerns will automatically be overridden by my animal desire to reproduce. Subconsciously I won’t start to see daygame as have realistic reproduction opportunity until I start to get laid from it.

While there’s much more to game than approaching and I will continue to work on my value, the way forward in this instance is mass approaching. Oxford Street watch out.