Archive for January, 2014

My Goal For 2014 Q1

Posted: January 21, 2014 in Uncategorized

In my post about my goals for 2014 I stated that I’d give my primary focus to one goal at a time, probably focusing on one per quarter. For the first quarter of 2014 I have decided to focus on my first goal, which is to fuck 20 new women this year.

Obviously I don’t intend to reach this goal over the course of 3 months (the first quarter of 2014). What I will do is focus on quantity. My goal for 2014 Q1 is to sleep with 7 new women. I think this is a good goal for the first part of the year for a number of reasons.

If I achieve it I will be ‘ahead’ of my goal to get 20 notches by the end of the year, meaning that my first goal of 2014 should then be fairly easy to achieve after that.

This time of the year isn’t the best for daygame because of the weather. I know I’ll use the weather as an easy excuse not to daygame, so I’m more likely to fail at my daygame goal (getting my first day game lay ever) if I go after that in the first quarter. In addition to this, my biggest sticking point with day game at the moment is AA. This is partly because it’s on the street and not in a club, and partly because I do day game sober. At the moment I am doing 1/2 of all sarges stone cold sober. I’m also doing some street approaches. Doing these things over the next 3 months will help to lessen AA for when I come onto my day game goal later in the year. If I attempted the day game goal in the first quarter, I think I’d fail due to AA.

Getting 7 lays in about 13 weeks will require lots of approaches. Lots of approaches mean lots of opportunities to fail and succeed, and analyse those failures and successes in order to improve. This will maximise my chances of achieving my goal of fucking an HB8+ this year. I think when I’m focusing on laying an HB8+ my success rate will drop because I’ll be approaching hot girls almost exclusively. It’ll be good to be doing this after I’ve already racked up high numbers so this doesn’t compromise my lay count goal.

Plan of Action

I think achieving things is on a basic level a 3 step process:

  1. Make a definite goal
  2. Plan how you intend to achieve that goal
  3. Take action

I’ve got point 1 covered, but if I never work out what I need to do week in week out over the next 12 weeks I will fail to achieve my goal. That would be like setting out on a journey to a distant destination without a map. If you don’t know how to get where you want to go, you’ll never make it there.

This lead me to a question. What will I have to do to sleep with 7 girls in 3 months? I decided, that although I could be better at game I have enough seduction skill to achieve this already. If I just open enough girls in 3 months I’ll fuck 7 of them.  This lead me to another question. How many girls do I need to open in order to have a very high probability of fucking 7 of them? My guess was 250. Sure I may get the lays with far fewer women opened, but I want to almost guarantee it. Trouble is, that’s 20 a week. Not impossible, but, very very high.To make things easier, I don’t see why around half my lays shouldn’t come from online dating, which when used on a mobile device would allow me to spend a greater amount of time per week contacting girls than if I just did cold approach. In the end I decided I’d need to do 12 cold approaches a week and contact 10 girls online.

I’ve already been putting this plan into effect. I keep track of my approaches with a counter app on my phone and I’m making sure I hit the dozen weekly. So far I’ve laid two new girls. A good start but I’ve got a feeling I’ll have to step the approaching up a notch next month in order to guarantee I hit my goal.

My Goals for 2014

Posted: January 17, 2014 in Uncategorized

My goals for 2014 are similar to 2013. The mainly relate to pussy and money. They are as follows:

  1. Sleep with 20 new girls
  2. Get my first day game lay
  3. Fuck my first HB8+
  4. Save £2,500
  5. Visit Japan
  6. Get my front end development skills up to senior level

Last year I did say I was more concerned with quality than quantity. As my 20 notches goal shows, I’ve changed my mind on that slightly. There are a couple of reasons for this. Firstly is the player self image. More about this in an other post, as it’s an interesting topic all on it’s own. The crux of it is that if you bang a lot of girls you’ll view yourself as a player and therefore act like a player, without even thinking about it. This leads to more success. Secondly is that to some extent, quality is a product of quantity. I really believe that if I try hard to bang 20+ girls this year, I’ll actually have more of a chance of banging an HB8+ than if I try and “go for quality” and just focus on the hotter girls. It seems counter intuitive but I think it’s true. In the last year I slept with more HB7-7.5s than ever before, because I slept with more women. RooshV  very eloquently explains how this works. Simply adding points to my bell curve may well help get my highest quality lays up.

To some extent, quality is a product of quantity

I still really want to break day game. As I move into my mid thirties in the next few years, I’m forsee that I’ll want to transition away from the clubs to street game. AA is still holding me back here. I’ve also come to realise the fact that most of my sarging is done under the influence of alcohol but I’m sober in the street is part of the problem. As such I’m making sure 50% of all of my night game is done sober from now on, to help prepare me for success in the street.

The obscure sounding career goal is step one in my (as of now fairly vague) plan to gtfo of my day job. More on that another time.

I think the hardest will be getting the HB8+. I still view these girls in my mind as being too good for me, and as a consequence of this mostly don’t open them. I’m not good looking enough to get them on looks alone, so I’ll need a healthy does of solid game. So I need to work on both my inner and outer game to lay my first 8+, and when you consider that, in addition to that most HB8+s are in limited supply, you can see I have a challenge ahead.

The biggest thing I’m changing from previous years is how I’m going about setting goals. Firstly, I limited myself to half a dozen goals. Some were left off, but I’ve noticed that in previous years there were just too many. If you want to do achieve a tough goal you have to focus the majority of your effort on one goal at a time. With 6 goals for a year I just about have enough time and focus to give each of them the attention the need. I’ll see how it goes, but in future years I may even knock it down to 3. To be honest, even a single goal as big as getting a day game lay or banging an 8 would be worthy of devoting a whole year of effort to on their own.

Secondly, I’m setting a main focus goal every quarter. Each quarter of the year I’ll pick on of the goals and give that the majority of my focus. Yes, I do realise the year only has 4 quarters, not six. I think some of my goals will be achieved in the background, with very little active focus given to them.

In my next post I’ll talk about the first quarters goal.

As with my last field report this relates to a girl I already met in a club and had been one one date with. The girl in question was of Iranian descent, but spent the majority of her life growing up in this country. She was very sexual. I’ve always wanted a Middle Eastern girl because of the looks, and this one was the same: long, dark semi curly hair, dark eyes, wide hips, small waist, big tits. When I first met her in the club I thought she was an 8. When she turned up to the first date and I was sober and she wasn’t tarted up as much, I’d say she was a 6.5.

The previous date had ended with me throwing her against the wall in a lift, grabbing her around the thighs and picking her up so her legs were around my waist whilst passionately kissing her. Despite this she wouldn’t go home with me, but I had high hopes for the second date.

I apologise in advance that readers won’t get much out of this in terms of analysing what made the seduction successful, as it was pretty much a lock by the time this date came around, and it’s the second date that this field report relates too.

I was between jobs so had a free week day, and she had a job interview near my flat. We met one tube stop from me and went to lunch. We chatted about career, family and food. No real game stuff except talking about my plans and ambitions for the future. Girls like a guy with plans and ambitions.

After lunch we walk back to the tube station. We stand talking outside for about 5 minutes. Since she’s showing no signs of leaving despite us just being stood outside of the station, it’s looking pretty obvious that she’ll come home with me. I ask if she wants to and she instantly accepts.

Once in my flat we go straight to it. There’s no LMR. I fuck her doggy after sucking on her large tits, and come a bit too early.

After sex we talk about how she’s a part of a all girl fetish / sex club that hold regular meetups and go to fetish events like Torture Garden together. She says they’re looking for men to go to sex parties with. She shows me pictures on her phone of other girls in the group, most of them naked. Nice.

As is often the case, you learn little from success and a lot from failure. As such, I didn’t really learn much from this, but it was an enjoyable lay all the same.

2013: Year Review

Posted: January 8, 2014 in Uncategorized

If I had to sum up my progress this year in a nutshell, I would describe it as steady but not earth shattering. As you will see I’ve made incremental progress, but despite this nothing I’d consider really game changing has happened.

Firstly, lets talk about the sex. As with both Krauser and Tom Torero the only stat I know for sure is my new notch count. I don’t know what my open or number close or date numbers are. In terms of approaches I would estimate that I made at least 250, and at the very most around 400. That’s all cold approaches, night game or day game, It does not included the girls I contact using online dating, which is fairly large.

Total new notches for 2013: 16
Online: 3
Night game: 13
Day game: 0
Social Circle: 1

This is a 1/3rd increase from last years notch count of 12. I would also say that my quality has increased over last year. It’s had to quantify, but I’d say it’s gone up on average by half a point. I still did a few rotters this year though.

That’s the lays, but I also had a whole set of goals for 2013. A good thing about having a blog is that your goals are kept on public record, so that both you and others are able to hold you to account. According to this very blog, my goals for 2013 were as follows. The crossed out ones are the ones I was successful in meeting. Comments are in italics.

  1. Become competent at IOS (iPhone/Pad) programming. Due to the ever changing tech market I decided this really wasn’t the best use of my time.
  2. Get a new job with slightly more responsibility. Earning a fair amount more cash now too.
  3. Expand my seduction community social circle by at least a couple of (decent) people. Have realised I’ll never have a huge social circle, it’s not in my nature. Still can do with expanding it slightly.
  4. Go to meet ups regularly. I found a social meetup I like where I can mix socialising, networking and sarging. Need to work on the social side of things.
  5. Make 2/3 new friends outside of the community. I made one friend this year. Yay. Will expand on this next year, but again never going to have a huge social circle, and I’m OK with that.
  6. Travel abroad at least twice. Paris and Belgrade.
  7. Do two interesting things a month. It can be a trip abroad or just going to a restaurant which is a little different. Didn’t keep up with this habit.
  8. Stop smoking.
  9. Stop spending loads of cash on sexual services. Have cut down, but not completely cut it out yet.
  10. Continue reading a book a month. More or less.
  11. Sleep with a dozen women (although I’m more concerned with quality these days).
  12. Start regularly approaching girls in the day time. I made a big effort for about 6 weeks, but I have so much AA in the daytime that it stops sarging being fun or productive.
  13. Get my first day game lay. (As the weather gets warmer next year I’m really going to push for this one. I can do it through sheer volume of approaches if I have to. I don’t think it’s possible for me to do 100 day game approaches and not get laid). See above.
  14. Keep my flat tidy. Did better than last year, but not enough to cross this off.
  15. Get a 6 pac (I’m so close but need to stop dieting now) Came close but only started dieting in November. 2 months wasn’t enough.

I achieved about half of my goals. All in all I feel like I moved forward this year, but my life is fundamentally the same. I want to make changes so big that I feel like I’m almost living a new life. My goals for next year (I’ll post about these soon) should reflect this.

I think my two main problems (apart from my lack of discipline) were that I set too many goals, and didn’t focus on one goal at a time. I will addresses these points in the way in which I go about setting next years goals in my upcoming post.