Epic Fail

Posted: July 21, 2014 in Uncategorized

A while back a set a goal for the second quarter of 2014. This was part of my drive to achieve all of my 2014 goals. The goal to be completed by the end of June was to fuck a girl from daygame. As you may have gathered from the title of this post, I failed.

So why did I fail? I pretty much stuck to the sarging schedule I laid out, apart from the last month where I ran into some issues and tried some new things. The thing is I just so rarely open when I’m out sarging. I aimed to approach around 180 women, and ended up approaching only 60. From that I got a grand total of one instadate, a phone number, and 0 day2s. It’s almost laughably bad.

It all comes down to anxiety. I’ve always been quite a nervous person, and suffered from extreme AA for my first couple of years in nightgame. I though after conquering nightgame (at least to some extent), I’d face only a few teething troubles when starting daygame, then I’d soon be smashing hot young tourists I met wandering down Oxford Street with gleeful abandon. Turns out those few teething problems where a major road block, and as of yet, no tourists, young nor hot or otherwise, have been smashed.

The biggest blow to me isn’t that I haven’t achieved my goal. It’s that I now feel like game hasn’t given me the deep personality transformation I thought it had. I thought I had gained a lot of self esteem, but now I feel that I’ve just got more confident at approaching girls in clubs and escalating on dates. People talk about confidence like it’s the ultimate attribute a man can posses. In reality confidence is very situational. You feel confident within situations in which you are competent. Self esteem is the real goal. Self esteem is portable. It’s always with you and allows you to very quickly gain confidence in new situations. How to get it? Fuck knows.

At the moment I feel almost as if I’ve regressed to my pre game state of being. In an attempt to crack daygame I’ve started to remove everything I consider and impediment to it, everything that is part of my comfort zone, in order to spur me to action. So I don’t nightgame anymore. I don’t do online game. I’m slowly phasing out girls I’ve been seeing. When coupled with the fact I’m barely doing any daygame sets the result has been bad. I’m not seeing my wings any more. I’m not interacting with girls much. I’m spending more and more time alone. I’m very heavily introverted, so the result of this has been sinking into a state of heavily disinterested misanthropy. Even short conversations feel like a chore to me now. When coupled with my extreme AA, you can imagine how bad my vibe is when I actually do approach girls on the street. It’s no wonder I’ve got nothing out of my 60 sets.

With all of this I’m also very concious of the fact that as of last month I’m also a year older. At 32 I’m hardly past it yet, but unlike being 22 I don’t have the luxury of wasting any time. I need to crack this very soon or I miss my window.

I think cracking daygame is certainly possible for me. I’m just not sure I’m willing to spend 3 years on it. That was how long it took me to get decent in clubs, and right now it feels like I’ll have to do that all over again for daygame. If I don’t, I don’t think I’ll reach my full potential at game. I really feel that daygame will imbue me with some attributes I’m still missing, and push me over the threshold to the point where I’m fucking not just decent girls, but hot girls.

I’ve decided to do just one long day game session a week. I’ll spend up to 7 hours daygaming on either Saturday or Sunday. This gives me enough time to open lots of sets and take the poison pill.

Here’s a run down of progress on all of my other goals this year and how they’re progressing:

Sleep with 20 new girls

16 down, 4 to go. With over 5 months left of the year, this is coming along well.

Get my first day game lay

Still a long way to go. Having said that I think I had a possible SDL on my hands this week, but it went tits up. Going to force myself to open more sets and target 6s and some 7s to get the lay.
Fuck my first HB8+

I got a hand job in an allyway on a day 2 with an HB8 this week. This is the closet by far I have got to fucking a girl I’d classify as hot. She seemed really keen on a second date, and from her texts she was not far off asking for sex. Then she cancels our second date when I text her the morning of the date to confirm. Got a feeling I won’t see her again. She’s Muslim (Turkish), so maybe the escalation was all too much, too soon.
Save £2,500

Although I’ve only managed around £800 so far, that’s significant given that I’ve never saved money in my life before. In addition to this, I have joined my companies on call scheme. It means I’ll get an extra £500 gross every 6 weeks. After tax this will mean about £1800 by the end of the year. This cash is excess to my requirements and will easily be saved. This alone will allow me to hit this figure.
Visit Japan

Given up on this. It’s too incompatible with the point above. I went to Wales instead. Ha.
Get my front end development skills up to senior level

I’ve decided to focus more on Javascript development than front end in general. I think this goal was to vague, it’s hard to say when I’m done. So far I have done a moderate amount of work towards it, but I think I need to double my efforts on this in order to really count the goal as fulfilled. Ultimately, if my skills / example code is good enough to get the type of job I want early next year, then I’ve nailed this.


The Intermediate’s Trap

Posted: June 4, 2014 in Uncategorized

I’ve met many aspiring players over the years and have noticed a pattern in their development which I think of as the intermediate’s trap. The pattern goes like this:

  1. A guys is full on blue pill. He realises he sucks with women, and spends a lot of time being involuntarily celibate.
  2. The guy discovers game.
  3. Since the guy doesn’t get laid regularly, his physical and self esteem needs drive him to go out into the field and learn game. Progress is slow and littered with painful rejections and mini ego deaths. The desire to get laid and to be able to think of himself as the type of guy who’s good with women pushes him through the pain barrier.
  4. He gets some success. Enough to spur him on but not enough to sait his appetite. He pushes on and keeps improving.
  5. Occasional success becomes fairly regular.
  6. Our wannabe is now an intermediate player. He lays one girl every 1 – 2 months, giving him the same amount of sexual success in a year as some guys have in a lifetime. The girls he fucks range from being 1 point lower than him in looks, up to the same level. He rarely, if ever fucks girls more physically attractive than him. Despite racking up decent numbers, he has to put a lot if time and effort in per lay.
  7. His progress now flatlines. He remains at intermediate level permanently. He will never fuck the really hot girls, or fuck huge numbers in one year, or regularly get lays without putting in hours and hours of sarging. He has fallen into the intermediate’s trap.

After failing completely and giving up, this is the second most common outcome for a guy starting out in game. I’d say 85% guys fail, 13% become intermediates, 2% become truly great at it.

How does this happen? Our man went through what looks to be the hardest stage. This is the fiery crucible of regularly cold approaching girls for the first time. He kept going when for months he could barely even get a girl to have a 5 minute conversation with him. He kept going when virtually every number he took flaked. He kept going when he’d get girls out on dates, only to never here from them again after that. If he could keep going through all of this, then how does he manage to get stuck in such a rut later on?

The answer is two fold: a decline in motivation, and diminishing returns on effort.

When our guy first started out motivation was easy to come by. He’s faced with the option of either being successful at learning game, or being able to count the number of girls he’ll sleep with in the remaining 60 years of his life on the fingers of one hand. The choice between sexless loser and guy that gets the girl is an easy one that provides a lot of motivation. He keeps going at learning game because it’s the only option that provides him with any hope of a happy life. People say women won’t bring a man happiness. While this is true, I’d counter that by saying a man who isn’t regularly getting laid will be incapable of being happy. Pussy is high enough up on a man’s hierarchy of needs that it is a prerequisite of happiness.

Once he’s an intermediate, he then needs to be motivated to go from a good, above average sex life to one so amazing that he could write a book about it. While it’s easy to be motivated to go from terrible to good enough, it’s very hard to be motivated to go from good enough to amazing. This is because good enough is, well, good enough. There’s a huge leap in terms of self esteem and happiness to be gained by going from getting laid once every two years with a fatty to getting laid once every 6 weeks with an average girl. There’s a small gain in happiness and ego to be had by going from getting laid once every 6 weeks with an average girl to getting laid every other week with a hot girl. On paper getting laid that regularly with a hot girl seems like a huge motivational factor. In reality, once you’re regularly getting laid it’s much less of an issue. Your needs are being fulfilled so your drive declines. If you were to pay 100 people £100k a year for the rest of their lives (inflation adjusted…) what percentage of those people would carry on working and use that money to go on to become multi millionaires by building a business or wise investing? My guess would be well under 10%. These people have a good enough income for the rest of their days, and this will their drive to do better.

Then there are the diminishing returns on effort associated with going from intermediate to advanced. Notice earlier how I said when getting started the guy went through what “looks like” the hardest part. Those words were carefully chosen to express my belief that the better you get at game the harder it gets to improve. This is the same with most skills. When you start off at game it’s really obvious what you need to work on. Once you’re an intermediate it becomes much harder to work out what differentiates the advanced guys from you. Progress is slow, and often seems impossible.

I’m currently stuck in the intermediate’s trap. I want to get out, but my motivation for doing so is flagging. I have nowhere near the burning desire I had 5 years ago. But part of me really wants it. I see the hot girls and yearn to fuck them. So I’ll forge ahead.

Since I’m still stuck in the intermediate’s trap I may not be the best person to instruct others on how to get out of it, but here is a list of things I’m going to try:

  1. Actively harbour unhappiness at your current level of achievement. Compare the girls you fuck to the hot ones you see around, and notice how much better the hotter girls look. Let this make you unhappy, feel like you’re missing out. See guys who look no better than you with hot girls and get jealous and angry. Many of the emotions that mainstream society teaches us are negative are actually powerful motivators when harnessed correctly.
  2. Set goals which are just about realistic, but will stretch you. Put plans in place detailing how you intend to reach your goals. You may not stick to these 100%, but with out goals all you have dreams, and dreamers never achieve much.
  3. Become obsessed with getting better at game.
  4. Go back to basics. All the stuff you thought you’d mastered: Body language, conversational skills, push pull, text game, eye contact, vocal pace and tonality, fashion, fitness. There will be plenty of things which you no longer actively work on but could massively improve. I thought I spoke in an attractive way, but then I recently heard a recording of myself in set. I compared it to listening to the audio of a date with Tom Torero. Turns out I don’t sound nearly as much like an attractive man as I thought. Plenty to work on.
  5. Bring in professional help. A professional game coach may be able to help you work on your flaws and progress. Good one’s are hard to find, especially if you’re looking to move from intermediate to advanced. Caveat emptor.
  6. Do a physical, mental and lifestyle audit. Take stock of where you are in terms of life, personality, physical form and success. Measure this against where you want to be (not where society expects a man of your age should be). If you do this right all of your insecurities should start to come out of the woodwork at this point. There’s a huge risk here that your ego will create blind spots to cover up your biggest flaws. This process should help you work out what you need to do next.
  7. Write field reports. This isn’t so much for you to get advice from the internets on where you’re going wrong. It’s more about the fact that you think about things in a different way when you write them down as opposed to just in your head. You may spot some patterns you’ve been missing.
  8. Realise that you don’t know shit. Thinking that you’re already good at game will blind you to obvious weaknesses. It will stop you trying things you’ve dismissed as unnecessary.
  9. Keep pushing your comfort zones. Many noobs go on about pushing their comfort zones. Intermediate guys think that this doesn’t apply to them because they’ve been their and done that. In reality their success is just blinding them to the fact that they’re just in a slightly bigger comfort zone than the noob. They’ll only approach certain girls, in certain environment, and only use a certain set of techniques. Get used to being scared again by trying out new things. For me this means daygame, which still terrifies me.
  10. Start aiming higher. If you want to fuck hotter girls, you need to open lots of hotter girls.

Going from intermediate to advanced won’t be a quick thing. You’re not going to be an intermediate one day, then work at it for a while, then suddenly you hit the next level. It’s a gradual thing. You start getting girls slightly more often. Their quality increases. Not from 7s to 10s overnight, but maybe 7s to 7.5s one year, then to 8s and so on. If you stay the course you’ll just wake up one day realising you’re so much better than you were two years ago. And we are talking years rather than months. That’s the timescale for excellence.

I’ve written before how my aim in the second quarter of the year is to bang a girl from daygame. I still have around 5 weeks left, but given my progress so far it’s very unlikely I’m going to make it.

The main reason for this is I haven’t really thrown myself into it, heart and soul. I go out fairly regularly, but lack the drive to overcome my high levels of approach anxiety. Recently I read a post on Danger & Play about how you should become obsessed over your goal in order to achieve it. This resonated with me, as it brought back memories of every time I’ve achieved something meaningful that I wanted. Each and every time I would get obsessed by whatever it was I wanted until I had achieved my goal.

I wanted to regularly have sex with new girls so… Went out every weekend religiously for years. Wrote so many messages on online dating sites that I’m  a wordsmith when it comes to digital communications with girls. Read half a dozen game books. Improved my appearance and fashion. Read game blogs when I should have been working. Stopped being friends with people who weren’t red pill. Cracking the game was always at the front of my mind. Goal achieved.

I wanted to lose weight so… At 224lbs I was well over 20% body fat. Picked a fasting based diet. Fasted religiously, never eating even a second before the specified time. I eat no sugar (baring fruits) for months. I got used to feeling hungry some of the time and living with it. Got to the point where unhealthy food actually made me feel odd. Often did cardio in the mornings before work. Measured my bf every few days. Fat loss was always at the front of my mind. Lost about 55lbs in just under a year. Ended up at 12% body fat. Goal achieved.

I wanted a new job paying 20% more so… Did programming challenges every night. Studied up on my primary programming language to close down every gap in knowledge. Read practise interview scenarios while at work. Getting a new job was always at the forefront of my mind. Took two weeks of work. Did 7 interviews. Multiple offers. Goal achieved.

You can see the pattern, and then with day game…

I wanted to get my first day game lay… So I hired a coach and had sessions every few weeks. Went out a couple of times a week but did very few approaches. Often too tired from night game, or too busy with Tinder dates to go out. Want to read Krauser’s book and watch day game videos in my pare time, but end up focusing on learning a new work skill. Goal not achieved.

As you can see I’m no where near as obsessed as I need to be with day game. I realised earlier this month that I needed to turn day game from the vague want it is now into a need. I’ve started to put together a plan to help my brain lock onto and get obsessed with day game:

  • Quit all online dating
  • Rarely go out at night (twice a month to maintain friendships with night game wings)
  • Reduce frequency of masturbation to once a week
  • Spend a lot of time watching day game videos in my spare time
  • If there’s ever a conflict between the two, day game > gym

This will have the following consequences:

  1. Sexual release will be almost entirely dependant on day game success
  2. I won’t be too tired to do day game
  3. Day game will always be on my mind

I’m hoping that before the end of next month I’m completely obsessed.

My two sticking points

Posted: May 9, 2014 in Uncategorized

After much introspection, and much banging my head against a brick wall, I think I have finally found the main sticking points that are standing in my way of banging hot women.

  1. I’m lazy
  2. I’m all push, no pull

Firstly, my laziness. I don’t mean lazy as in I won’t put the groundwork in in terms of cold approaching and Tindering for dates. I do that fine (with the exception of daygame, but that’s out of fear, not laziness). I’m not lazy in terms of generating leads, but more in terms of how I work those leads once I have them. Put bluntly I don’t put much effort into gaming girls who like me at least somewhat and who are sat in front of me.

This mainly applies to dates, but also to the comfort stage of club pick ups as well. On first dates I basically do this:

  1. Meet her, mild teasing.
  2. Talk about dull subjects with here like career, shared interests.
  3. Get progressively more drunk as the date progresses
  4. Escalate and go in for the kiss. I don’t care what signals she gives me. If I fancy her I always go for the kiss. I make the girl either reject me or kiss me, Gunwhitch style. If I’m rebuffed at first I try again later a couple of times.
  5. If the kiss happens, try and take her back to mine. If it doesn’t I mentally give up on the girl / situation.
  6. I rarely bother with second dates, I’m all about the first date lay.

This isn’t good game. This is get drunk and pull the trigger (I don’t need alcohol to escalate, getting drunk just passes the time).

So why do I do this? It comes down to too many easy lays. Last year I had a number of very quick, low effort night club pulls. This year the same thing with Tinder. For example I had 3 easy first date lays in 2 weeks. All of this has conditioned me to go for the quick, instant gratification. Just turn up, drink beer, put little effort into gaming her and expect a lay at the end of the night. The only thing I have going for me is I’m not basing my self esteem on how the date goes (non neediness), I lead, and I escalate. It’s very basic, aggressive don’t be beta game. This may keep working for a while on 6s and the occasional 7, but I’m not going to be fucking hot girls this way.

Secondly, I’m all push, no pull. For those of you that don’t know, a pull is when you act positively to show interest in a girl. For example, you giver her a compliment. A push is when you push her away by showing defiance / disinterest. An example would be a tease, or turning your body away from her. Game is a delicate balancing act between the push and the pull. All pull and you come off as another needy chode. All push and you come off as an asshole. Too much push will get you laid more than too much pull, as given the choice most girls choose the asshole over the chode, but it’s far from optimal.

My problem actually goes deeper than this. I’m all push, no pull. All steel, no velvet. All fire, no ice. I put up a strong gamey front and show no vulnerability to the girl. I completely lack soft dominance (protective, caring), focusing just on hard dominance (leadership, sexual aggression, boundaries). If you still don’t understand what the fuck I’m talking about, read The Badass Buddha post by Tom Torero. In a nutshell I’m good at going sexual, taking the piss out of girls, acting like a cunt and pushing for sex. Although girls find this exciting and many girls wanting a quick fuck drop their knickers quickly as a result, it won’t get me the girls who are more (physically) attractive than me. They will demand a strong man, but also a man that will let down the walls and not be afraid to connect with them, and look after them.

Anyway, I’m a bit drunk and so have no idea how to solve these problems at the moment. I’ll leave that as a topic of another post.

On the plus side I have no shagged graduates of both Oxford and Cambridge universities. I don’t know why, but for some reason this makes me feel proud.

My Goal For 2014 Q2

Posted: March 31, 2014 in Uncategorized

In one of my first posts this year I set out a series of six goals which I wanted to achieve over the course of 2014. I decided to break the year into quarters, and set a sub goal for each quarter. The subgoal would either be to directly achieve on of the six main goals, or to help me on my way to achieving them.

My goal for the first quarter of the year was to fuck 7 new girls. As of last Saturday, that goal has been achieved (edit: I actually fucked an 8th a couple of days after I started writing this). Through a mixture of Tinder, cold approach, and POF I made it happen. It was very frustrating at times, but I had a lot of fun (even though I was worried I had picked up an STD at one point after raw dogging some girls). I would have prefered for all the lays to be cold approach, but the goal wasn’t specific.

Another one of my goals was to save £2.5k. I’ve managed about £500 so far. Although I’m behind with that figure, this is a big thing for me. Saving is something I’ve never been disciplined enough to do in the past, so that fact that I’m getting in the habit of not spending all of the money I make is a great start.

At some point soon I’ll do a retrospective on the last 3 months. I learned some things and identified some weaknesses in my game, so it’ll be worth doing a post on. I should really do that now, but I’m too excited at the prospect of setting my next goal.

Without further ado, my target for 2014 Q2 is (drum roll…):

Get my first daygame lay

Simple to state, but as my previous forays into daygame have proved, not so simple to achieve. As with all goals, the methodology for achievement is:

  1. Make a definite goal
  2. Plan how you intend to achieve that goal
  3. Take action

I’ve stated the goal, so I now need a plan. I think it’s always best to plan backwards from your goal in order to let the goal itself dictate how it can realistically be achieved. So lets work backwards from the end goal of a daygame lay:

How do I get a day game lay? By taking a girl I met during daygame on a date, and fucking her.

How may girls will I need to take on dates before one of them will have sex with me? For online / club game, taking 3 girls on dates will pretty much 100% guarantee me I’ll fuck one of them. I don’t think 3 is enough for daygame though. Going on dates from day game doesn’t seem to get me the same results as with night game. I’ve gone on dates with 4 girls from day game and laid none of them. I’m going to say it could take me 6 day twos to get laid from day game.

How many girls will I have to open to get one day two from daygame? I have no idea. All I know is that it’s more than 10 and less than 50. I’m going to say 30.

How many girls do I have to open to get six dates, and therefore a lay, from day game? 30 x 6 = 180

How many sets will I have to open a week to get to 180 in the quarter? 180 / 12 = 15

How many hours a week will I need to sarge to get in 15 sets a week? I think I’ll average 2 sets an hour. Yes, it’s possible to do twice that, but with initially high levels of daytime AA, plus factoring in time for instadates, I think this is realistic. That means I’ll need to sarge 7.5 hours per week.

What will my sarging schedule need to look like in order to get in 7.5 hours a week? The following schedule should do it:


6:00pm Finish Work
6:30pm Arrive at Oxford Street
6:30pm – 8:00pm Sarge


6:00pm Finish Work
6:15pm Eat diner at work
6:45pm Arrive at Oxford Street
6:45pm – 7:45pm Sarge
8:15pm Arrive home
8:45pm Arrive at gym


Kept free for dates or seeing friends, with option to do another 90 minutes of sarging if I’m free.


6:00pm Finish Work
6:15pm Eat diner at work
6:45pm Arrive at Oxford Street
6:45pm – 7:45pm Sarge
8:15pm Arrive home
8:45pm Arrive at gym


Kept free for dates or seeing friends, with option to do another 90 minutes of sarging if I’m free.


10:00am Wake up
10:30am -12:00pm Laundry / cleaning
1:00pm -3:30pm Sarge at Saturday Sarge
4:00pm – Arrive home
5:00pm – 6:00pm Shopping
7:00pm Start predrinking for nightgame


11:00am Wake up
12:30pm-1:00pm Gym
2:30pm-5pm Sarging
5pm – 9pm Dates
10pm Food prep / ironing for the coming week

This schedule will lead to 8.5 hours day gaming a week. Considering I will want to be doing career development work most nights on top if this, it’s actually a very demanding schedule. Even with this it will be hard to get the 7.5 hours in. This coming week for example I have an appointment Tuesday night, date Wednesday night and a girl staying with me all day Sunday so it’s going to be hard to fit those 7.5 hours I need in.

Sarging is like walking the daygame path. It’s the raw effort required to obtain results. That’s only one part of the equation though. You also need a good map to help you navigate the path effectively. My map will come in two forms. Firstly, I’m going to buy Krauser’s Daygame Mastery book. Everything I’ve heard about it leads me to believe that this is the daygame book. Secondly, for the first time ever since starting game I will be paying for tuition. I hate the idea of a boot camp. I don’t think you can learn a complicated skill like game in just one weekend. It’s a bit like learning the piano. People don’t go on a weekend piano bootcamp and expect to be able to play well at the end of it. They get regular lessons with a teacher. The teacher gives them guidance and corrects mistakes. The pupil then goes away and practices, and the cycle starts again with the next lesson, and on until competence is achieved. I’m going to take this approach to learning game. Over the next three months I hope to be getting hour long one on one lessons with the guy from gaydame, probably once every couple of weeks.

My quest for daygame competence starts on Monday.

There’s a lot I want to achieve this year. After holding down a full time job, hitting the gym 3 times a week, sarging and dating it didn’t look like I’d have time to do much else. Recently I’ve had some tasks that I just haven’t got started on for weeks, like giving my flat a deep clean and getting really good at JavaScript.

Despite being very busy, I thought I must surely be able to fit in a up to 5 hours a week to work on these things. So I sat down to work out how much free time I had in a week after work, cooking, shopping, sarging, dating and gyming. Sure enough there was plenty of free time remaining most weeks to get in at least 5 hours of productive work. That’s what the maths said, but in reality I never seemed to have free time. There were lost hours in my life, probably over a dozen per week.

It didn’t take me long to work out how these dozen lost hours were being spent.

Blogs. Twitter. Youtube videos. Porn. I was frittering away my precious time online. As a result, I decided to ban the Internet.

This is actually slightly more extreme than it sounds. I don’t want to completely cut out the Internet. It’s an amazing resource, that amongst other things had provided me with knowledge that gets me laid. The actual rules which I imposed on myself are as follows:

  • No internet on weekends
  • No internet for 1 weeknight a week that isn’t a gym night
  • Whatsapp is excluded from the ban (need to talk to girls)
  • Internet usage is excluded from the ban if it’s used to directly aid a productive pursuit (for example looking up information when working on a new programming project which will help my career, use of WordPress for blogging).
  • Internet usage is excluded from the ban if it’s used to aid me logistically (finding venues to take a girl that weekend, getting directions)

I’ve done this for about a week so far, and although I’ve strayed a little, I’ve already seen great gains in productivity. I just have huge chunks of time where I’m just sat there thinking, “What do I do now”? Since I don’t really watch TV the only answer to that question is to do productive work. So far I’ve tided part of my flat, bought a book on node.js, got a development environment set up, and started learning to code on this platform. A tidy flat is good for bringing girls back, and the technologies I’m learning could lead to contract work that pays $600 – $1000 per day. My time is now well spent, thanks to lack of Internet.

When Game Doesn’t Seem Like Game

Posted: February 11, 2014 in Uncategorized

When people think of game, they usually think of some sort of learned behavioural skill or thought pattern. For example having good body language and defeating shit tests are behavioural skills. Being present to the moment and having a sense of entitlement are thought patterns. There are, however, many decisions you make during night game, that don’t seem like they are part of the game skill set. Despite this, they can have a massive impact on your success rate. For this reason, the ability to make good decisions can be seen as being part of good night game. I think of it as the strategy side of night game.

As you get better at game, you will find that there are probably multiple girls in the club on a given night who will spend a lot of time with you. Time in the club is a precious resource. Most people can get in at most two 4 hour sessions of club time per week. They may even have to miss a few of these sessions every month due to money / time constraints. This means which girls you spend your time with in the club is important. There’s a huge opportunity cost of spending too much time with the wrong girls.

To help with this, I have categorized girls, and outlined do to deal with each type to maximize your use of time. Note that these are all girls who you’ve opened and hooked, and now seem willing to spend time with you.

Girls who want free drinks. This is actually really rare in London, although I did run into a girl like this the other night. The difficult part is that not every girl that asks you to buy her a drink falls into this category. In fact, most girls that ask me to buy them a drink want to fuck me. I’m not going to go into too much detail about this here because I could write a whole post about it. Basically, if they seem interested in getting to know you as a person (not grinding you, getting to know you) and are showing involuntary signs of attraction to you (eg pupils dilated aka Anime eyes) and they ask you to buy them a drink, they’re probably not tooling you (doesn’t mean you should buy them one though! Just don’t give up on the set). If they seem overly flirty on a superficial level, not interested in learning more about you, and they buy you a drink, then they’re attempting to waste both your time and your money. Move on.

Polite timewasters. This phrase was coined by my natural wing. These are girls who will happily spend a long time talking to you, but who are in no way sexually interested in you. They are actually fairly rare, as a girl often won’t spend much time with you in a club if she isn’t interested. The key to finding these girls out it physical escalation. If she won’t even let you pull her in close or hold her hand after 15 minutes of talking, the girl most likely falls into this category. You really are wasting your precious time here. Move on.

Down to fuck (DTF) girls. The night game jackpot. These girls are very physical very early on and may even escalate on you. You should be looking to extract them quickly for sex. I’d say within 15 – 60 minutes of meeting them. The key sign here is although they’re interested in talking to you, they are even more interested in getting physical with you.

Girls who like you but won’t fuck that night. She’s interested in you. Will let you kiss her after 20 minutes of chatting. Happy to ditch her friends for most of the night to talk to you. When it comes to optimizing the use of your precious time in the club, this is actually the most difficult girl. On the one hand they’re a strong future prospect for sex. On the other hand, it’s not going to be tonight. The thing with these girls is once you’ve spent a certain amount of time talking to them, you’re losing nothing by sending her back to her friends then going off and finding a new girl. This is because once you’ve chatted for about 30 minutes (this is by no means a set figure), got her to invest, and built comfort with some wide rapport and a little deep rapport, then any further time spent with her that night is wasted. Best case scenario would be that spending all night with her vs 30 minutes with her leads to a first date lay vs a second date lay because she spent more time getting to know you in the club*.

What I would suggest with these girls is that once you’ve done enough to secure the date, you move on and try and find a girl for that night. This is where it gets complicated, and is something I struggle with. There’s three reasons it’s hard to walk away at this point:

1. You probably quite like the girl (if I don’t like a girl’s personality 30 minutes in I push for SNL and eject if I don’t get one). It’s hard to leave a girl you like spending time with to go back on the hunt. It’s like being in the warm end of the pool, getting out and immediately jumping into the cold end. You go from kissing and chatting nicely with your girl, back to getting back turns and bitchfaces from other girls you’ll approach. That’s a tough decision to make.

2. You risk her flaking on you as a result of her seeing you hitting on / making out with other girls. Some girls will actually become more attracted to you when they see this. I actually attribute one of my lays last year to jealousy induced by me tonging another girl in front of the one I ended up sleeping with.  Having said that, some girls will react the opposite way and have nothing to do with you if they see you going for it with other girls.

3. She might actually be an inbetweener (see next category), who’s willing to fuck you tonight, but just not so DTF she’ll do it within 60 minutes of meeting you. This is where it gets tough. There’s always the possibility that she’ll come home with you at the end of the night, so by leaving her you could be chucking away a SNL. I’m going to talk about how to deal with this in the inbetweeners category.

The Inbetweener. I call this type of girl the inbetweener because she’s inbetween DTF and ‘Interested but won’t fuck you tonight’. This girl shows interest in getting you know you. She allows some escalation but isn’t massively sexual with you. Any early (within 60 minutes of meeting her) attempts to get her to come home with you are instantly rejected. Despite all this, unlike the previous type of girl, if you stick in there, get to know her, have fun with her, escalate a bit, this girl may well come home with you. The “Not tonight girl” has already made her mind up early on, and certainly will never SNL. In contrast this girl will wait and see how she feels later in the night. All is to play for here.

I haven’t found a way to distinguish this type of girl from the previous type early on yet. The only way I know she isn’t a “Not tonight girl” is when she comes home with me, usually right near the time the club closes. By then if she doesn’t come home with you you’ve wasted prime sarging time when you could have just taken her number. I’m sure there will be a way to tell with a very high degree of accuracy what type of girl you’re dealing with early on. Girls always subtly sub communicate so much about themselves in a seemingly minor ways. Once a player has enough reference experiences to separate the signal from the noise and link certain outcomes to certain early behaviour patterns, I think he can predict the future of the set with scarey precision.

I’m not good enough yet to predict that well, so I have to treat not tonight girls and inbetweeners the same. The way I deal with this is by using what I refer to as Breaks. After about 30 minutes, when I have her hooked, invested and comfortable with me, I take a break from her. I take her number and tell her, “I want to spend some time with my friends now. I hope to come and see you later tonight, but just in case I don’t give me your number”. I then take her back to her friends, and go and sarge in a different part of the club. 30 minutes later, I’ll come back and see her again, for 15 minutes, then leave for another 30 minute solo sarge ‘Break’. Every now and again I’ll see if I can get her to leave with me. Rinse and repeat till you leave with another girl you met on a Break, or the night ends and you leave with this girl. If this doesn’t happen then Plan B is to take her on a day 2. This way you make optimal use of your time in the club. I’m only just starting to do this, as due to my introvert I find it hard to go from 30 minutes of deep conversation back to cold approaching. As I force myself into the cold end of the pool, I think I’ll see a nicely increased success rate from this tactic.

People these days hate on Mystery’s 7 hour rule because they’ve met DTF (category 3) girls and closed them within less than an hour. They use this to ‘prove’ the rule is invalid. In fact it holds for at least 80%+ of girls.

My Goal For 2014 Q1

Posted: January 21, 2014 in Uncategorized

In my post about my goals for 2014 I stated that I’d give my primary focus to one goal at a time, probably focusing on one per quarter. For the first quarter of 2014 I have decided to focus on my first goal, which is to fuck 20 new women this year.

Obviously I don’t intend to reach this goal over the course of 3 months (the first quarter of 2014). What I will do is focus on quantity. My goal for 2014 Q1 is to sleep with 7 new women. I think this is a good goal for the first part of the year for a number of reasons.

If I achieve it I will be ‘ahead’ of my goal to get 20 notches by the end of the year, meaning that my first goal of 2014 should then be fairly easy to achieve after that.

This time of the year isn’t the best for daygame because of the weather. I know I’ll use the weather as an easy excuse not to daygame, so I’m more likely to fail at my daygame goal (getting my first day game lay ever) if I go after that in the first quarter. In addition to this, my biggest sticking point with day game at the moment is AA. This is partly because it’s on the street and not in a club, and partly because I do day game sober. At the moment I am doing 1/2 of all sarges stone cold sober. I’m also doing some street approaches. Doing these things over the next 3 months will help to lessen AA for when I come onto my day game goal later in the year. If I attempted the day game goal in the first quarter, I think I’d fail due to AA.

Getting 7 lays in about 13 weeks will require lots of approaches. Lots of approaches mean lots of opportunities to fail and succeed, and analyse those failures and successes in order to improve. This will maximise my chances of achieving my goal of fucking an HB8+ this year. I think when I’m focusing on laying an HB8+ my success rate will drop because I’ll be approaching hot girls almost exclusively. It’ll be good to be doing this after I’ve already racked up high numbers so this doesn’t compromise my lay count goal.

Plan of Action

I think achieving things is on a basic level a 3 step process:

  1. Make a definite goal
  2. Plan how you intend to achieve that goal
  3. Take action

I’ve got point 1 covered, but if I never work out what I need to do week in week out over the next 12 weeks I will fail to achieve my goal. That would be like setting out on a journey to a distant destination without a map. If you don’t know how to get where you want to go, you’ll never make it there.

This lead me to a question. What will I have to do to sleep with 7 girls in 3 months? I decided, that although I could be better at game I have enough seduction skill to achieve this already. If I just open enough girls in 3 months I’ll fuck 7 of them.  This lead me to another question. How many girls do I need to open in order to have a very high probability of fucking 7 of them? My guess was 250. Sure I may get the lays with far fewer women opened, but I want to almost guarantee it. Trouble is, that’s 20 a week. Not impossible, but, very very high.To make things easier, I don’t see why around half my lays shouldn’t come from online dating, which when used on a mobile device would allow me to spend a greater amount of time per week contacting girls than if I just did cold approach. In the end I decided I’d need to do 12 cold approaches a week and contact 10 girls online.

I’ve already been putting this plan into effect. I keep track of my approaches with a counter app on my phone and I’m making sure I hit the dozen weekly. So far I’ve laid two new girls. A good start but I’ve got a feeling I’ll have to step the approaching up a notch next month in order to guarantee I hit my goal.

My Goals for 2014

Posted: January 17, 2014 in Uncategorized

My goals for 2014 are similar to 2013. The mainly relate to pussy and money. They are as follows:

  1. Sleep with 20 new girls
  2. Get my first day game lay
  3. Fuck my first HB8+
  4. Save £2,500
  5. Visit Japan
  6. Get my front end development skills up to senior level

Last year I did say I was more concerned with quality than quantity. As my 20 notches goal shows, I’ve changed my mind on that slightly. There are a couple of reasons for this. Firstly is the player self image. More about this in an other post, as it’s an interesting topic all on it’s own. The crux of it is that if you bang a lot of girls you’ll view yourself as a player and therefore act like a player, without even thinking about it. This leads to more success. Secondly is that to some extent, quality is a product of quantity. I really believe that if I try hard to bang 20+ girls this year, I’ll actually have more of a chance of banging an HB8+ than if I try and “go for quality” and just focus on the hotter girls. It seems counter intuitive but I think it’s true. In the last year I slept with more HB7-7.5s than ever before, because I slept with more women. RooshV  very eloquently explains how this works. Simply adding points to my bell curve may well help get my highest quality lays up.

To some extent, quality is a product of quantity

I still really want to break day game. As I move into my mid thirties in the next few years, I’m forsee that I’ll want to transition away from the clubs to street game. AA is still holding me back here. I’ve also come to realise the fact that most of my sarging is done under the influence of alcohol but I’m sober in the street is part of the problem. As such I’m making sure 50% of all of my night game is done sober from now on, to help prepare me for success in the street.

The obscure sounding career goal is step one in my (as of now fairly vague) plan to gtfo of my day job. More on that another time.

I think the hardest will be getting the HB8+. I still view these girls in my mind as being too good for me, and as a consequence of this mostly don’t open them. I’m not good looking enough to get them on looks alone, so I’ll need a healthy does of solid game. So I need to work on both my inner and outer game to lay my first 8+, and when you consider that, in addition to that most HB8+s are in limited supply, you can see I have a challenge ahead.

The biggest thing I’m changing from previous years is how I’m going about setting goals. Firstly, I limited myself to half a dozen goals. Some were left off, but I’ve noticed that in previous years there were just too many. If you want to do achieve a tough goal you have to focus the majority of your effort on one goal at a time. With 6 goals for a year I just about have enough time and focus to give each of them the attention the need. I’ll see how it goes, but in future years I may even knock it down to 3. To be honest, even a single goal as big as getting a day game lay or banging an 8 would be worthy of devoting a whole year of effort to on their own.

Secondly, I’m setting a main focus goal every quarter. Each quarter of the year I’ll pick on of the goals and give that the majority of my focus. Yes, I do realise the year only has 4 quarters, not six. I think some of my goals will be achieved in the background, with very little active focus given to them.

In my next post I’ll talk about the first quarters goal.

As with my last field report this relates to a girl I already met in a club and had been one one date with. The girl in question was of Iranian descent, but spent the majority of her life growing up in this country. She was very sexual. I’ve always wanted a Middle Eastern girl because of the looks, and this one was the same: long, dark semi curly hair, dark eyes, wide hips, small waist, big tits. When I first met her in the club I thought she was an 8. When she turned up to the first date and I was sober and she wasn’t tarted up as much, I’d say she was a 6.5.

The previous date had ended with me throwing her against the wall in a lift, grabbing her around the thighs and picking her up so her legs were around my waist whilst passionately kissing her. Despite this she wouldn’t go home with me, but I had high hopes for the second date.

I apologise in advance that readers won’t get much out of this in terms of analysing what made the seduction successful, as it was pretty much a lock by the time this date came around, and it’s the second date that this field report relates too.

I was between jobs so had a free week day, and she had a job interview near my flat. We met one tube stop from me and went to lunch. We chatted about career, family and food. No real game stuff except talking about my plans and ambitions for the future. Girls like a guy with plans and ambitions.

After lunch we walk back to the tube station. We stand talking outside for about 5 minutes. Since she’s showing no signs of leaving despite us just being stood outside of the station, it’s looking pretty obvious that she’ll come home with me. I ask if she wants to and she instantly accepts.

Once in my flat we go straight to it. There’s no LMR. I fuck her doggy after sucking on her large tits, and come a bit too early.

After sex we talk about how she’s a part of a all girl fetish / sex club that hold regular meetups and go to fetish events like Torture Garden together. She says they’re looking for men to go to sex parties with. She shows me pictures on her phone of other girls in the group, most of them naked. Nice.

As is often the case, you learn little from success and a lot from failure. As such, I didn’t really learn much from this, but it was an enjoyable lay all the same.